Your Negative Feelings Aren’t Bad

While it can be harmful to be overly negative–for instance more than a situation warrants–many times the instruction to “stop being so negative” is not helpful. Negative feelings aren’t just bad, they usually have some truth or a root to the situation that is needing attention.

It’s like an SOS from your parts or feelings.

Additionally, avoiding negative feelings can result in more stress and somatic symptoms. It’s like filling a balloon and expecting it to continue filling with air without popping. We will eventually have to feel what we are putting away anyway. One of the things we tell people when doing a trauma therapy is that feelings tend to follow a bell curve–they can only go so high. If we are willing to let them be, what goes up will eventually come back down, following a bell shape.

Lets be curious about these feelings and the needs they are pointing towards, instead of passing judgment on ourselves. We plan to keep talking about this subject in our posts, so stay tuned!